Happy Fathers Day

Hello ya’ll! Happy Monday to you! I hope you had a wonderful weekend!

Yesterday was father’s day! A day to celebrate those brave souls that are fathers. I thank God for my father that I love very very much and for my father in law that is an extremely important person in my life, if I didn’t know any better I would think God just blessed me with 2 AMAZING fathers from birth! But I would LOVE to dedicate this day to my husband. Even though he is not my father he already is a father to our little girl.

I was reading, What To Expect When You’re Expecting and came across a little sliver of a chapter titled: For Dad. I was first surprised that there was something written in there for the dad since he doesn’t deal with the physical portion of the pregnancy. However, as Doug and I read on a wave of shame rushed over me. This WHOLE time I’ve been feeling, woe is me, and the “oh sure HE got to have the “fun” part of this baby making shenanigan and I get the waddle like a penguin portion of it, NO FAIR !” Reading and getting educated made me see the light! I learned that men just as women, go through a hormonal change during a pregnancy. It’s proven fact that their testosterone levels go down and that they get estrogen surging through their very manly veins, making them all mushy and saying things such as, “Oh this is such a cute bib, let’s put it on the registry” and such. God made is so that daddies to be, would literally be more sensitive! How amazing is that!? That got me thinking of my husband and how he’s been through out my entire pregnancy. I felt so guilty for not praising him for being pregnant too. While I’m here having all these physical symptoms he has been experiencing them through me! What is worse? Having them or being a caring loving husband seeing your wife in so much discomfort and pain and not being able to do ANYTHIGN about it?! Whoa! Thinking that just took my breath away at how strong the man has to be during his partners pregonnes. Dude, men want to be the heroes in things. They want to be able to slay the dragon for their lovies! How can you do that when you are helpless and have no way of soothing your partners pain or crankiness other than catering completely to her cravings, uncontrollable moodiness and having to lie through your teeth when the inevitable questions start coming. My question , “Does this dress make me look huge?” Doug’s thoughts…. (NO, but that huge belly of yours does), Doug’s actual words, “NO honey you are beautiful no matter what”. Oh gosh I can’t even imagine having to be the guy part in all of this! What emotional turmoil. And to boot you’re not even the one that gets all the attention or the pity or gets to cut in line for the bathroom or gets a baby shower thrown for you (not that any guy would really enjoy one, but how about a party celebrating the poor fella? Nope there’s nothing) . Daddies to be, hardly get acknowledged and what a shame, they go through as much as women do, in different ways but they do. So this is my attempt to acknowledge fatherhood from the very beginning. Thank you all the fathers out there ,YOU are strong men! And if you are anything like my husband, you men are SAINTS! I could not have asked for anyone better to take care of me and the baby. Doug has been more amazing than I ever could of imagined, thank you for that honey. People say that fatherhood starts when the father meets their baby. I say they are wrong. Fathers are just amazing enough that they put their emotions on the back burner for the sake of their very pregnant partners! I hope all you fathers out there had an amazing day and that you were celebrated on and loved on a ton.

Make today a day to rejoice and to be ALIVE! Make the choice to make it a super saucy day, only you can!!!